Michelle Obama Achieves Her Goals as a Woman

Published in DW News
(China) on 07 June 2013
by Bi DianLong (link to originallink to original)
Translated from by Diana Xin. Edited by Rachel Smith.
First Lady Michelle Obama’s absence from the summit between President Obama and President Xi Jinping has not only caught the attention of western media, but it has also stirred endless discussion and conjecture among Chinese mainlanders. Outside the political realm, Michelle has achieved her goals as a woman.

Previously, I published an article analyzing Michelle’s absence from the summit from both the perspective of politics and the perspective of a woman, leading to two different titles: “Michelle’s Absence from the Summit is a Haughty Way to Hide Humility” and “Michelle Doesn’t Want to Fight Peng Liyuan for the Spotlight.” Because of the phrase “haughty way to hide humility,” some Internet friends have misinterpreted the word “humility,” which can also mean inferiority and self-abasement. An explanation follows below.

When the article says that Michelle feels inferior, she does not feel inferior because of her country, but because of herself. This inferiority comes only because she has no guarantee of being number one. Her pride is such that she does not want to be pushed down to number two. As a confident and proud woman, her humility comes from her uncertainty that she can outdo her opponent. Perhaps it is true that she looks down on her opponent, but she is still unable to steal the glory. Since this is the case, she would rather miss the summit. With Michelle’s independent personality, pride and biased views, it is understandable that she would take this course even if it brought slight harm to the country.

Before the event unfolded, Michelle had already achieved her goals as a woman.

First of all, Michelle has constructed the image of a loving mother who puts her children first. This has earned praise from many mainland Chinese women. This year’s National College Entrance Examination coincided with the summit, and parents across China could be seen standing outside testing facilities in the sweltering heat, waiting anxiously for their children. This has given Chinese parents greater empathy for Michelle, eliminating much of the negative effects of her absence from the summit.

Secondly, as the formerly indisputable number one woman in the world, Michelle has been able to dodge the spotlight trained on Peng Liyuan, using another tactic to win worldwide media attention. Whether people believe Michelle had reason to snub Peng Liyuan on principle, or understand and support Michelle’s decision to put family before government, or object to Michelle’s absence from the summit, they have all devoted more of their attention to Michelle. With this maneuver, she has stolen the limelight from Peng Liyuan. This is very apparent to Chinese mainlanders. Additionally, Michelle’s absence from the summit did provide Peng Liyuan with another stage, but it definitely cut her performance time short. Without ever sharing the stage and getting cast into the shadow, Michelle avoided having to compete for the position of number one. As a woman, this can be seen as her greatest success.

Thirdly, Michelle’s move has defended the independence and respect of American housewives. Currently, there is no need to submissively play a part or hide disharmony, even if it causes some unpleasant embarrassment to the family.

As a woman, as well as a loving wife and mother, Michelle has not suffered any disadvantages, and has even gained more media attention. However, as first lady, there is still much to be regretted in her actions. Especially if the summit discussions do not end ideally, eastern people will think in the eastern way that the truth of the situation lies in the details, and that perhaps the U.S. never sincerely prepared for or entered the summit discussions. Even if the summit has little to do with international politics, this has still greatly reduced Michelle’s aura in the public’s eye as a career woman and first lady.

If this is the case, Michelle still has the chance to do better. Even if she does not act according to the script, she can take the stage under her own terms. If she does not meet Peng Liyuan at the summit, she can meet her at another place; if she doesn’t meet her at the beginning of the summit, she can meet her at the end. She could also send gifts, expressing her regret, or invite Peng Liyuan to meet elsewhere in the U.S., taking a trip like old friends. Even though this gesture is not likely to happen, it would be the ideal way to balance out her absence from the summit. After all, Michelle is not just a woman, but also the first lady of the United States.


美国第一夫人米歇尔缺席习奥会,不但引起西方媒体的极大关注,更引起中国大陆民众的无限猜想和议论。抛却政治,作为女人,米歇尔的目的达到了。
日前笔者写过一篇文章,一半是从政治,一半是从女人的角度来分析米歇尔的缺席,所以同一文章给出了《毕殿龙:米歇尔缺席“习奥会”傲慢掩饰自卑》、《毕殿龙:米歇尔缺席“习奥会”不愿和彭丽媛拼风头》两个题目。因为文中有米歇尔以“傲慢掩饰自卑”的说法,特别是“自卑”一词,引起了部分网友的误解,这里就多解释几句。
文章中说密雪儿“自卑”,不是米歇尔为美国自卑,而是个人“自卑”,其自卑只是没有把握拿到世界第一而已。她的个性甚或因为过于骄傲而不愿意屈居第二。所以才会这样。她很自信或是傲慢,自卑是相对于能否盖过对方的自信而言。也许她骨子里瞧不起别人,但外在上,又不能抢到主要光环,设若如此,宁可缺席。米歇尔特立独行的个性,傲慢加偏见,即便做出稍微伤害国体的事情,也是能够理解的。
事情发展目前,作为女人,米歇尔的目的达到了。
其一,作为母亲,米歇尔以子女为重的良母形象塑造出来了。这点在中国大陆女性中,也赢得了很多的赞同。特别是习奥会期间,正直中国大陆的高考。看看中国父母冒着酷暑,在考场外焦急地等待自己的孩子,就更加能够让中国大陆的家长感同身受。很大部分消除了米歇尔缺席的负面影响。
其二,作为曾经毫无疑问世界第一的女人,避开正在火热中的彭丽媛的锋头,用更另类的方式成功吸引到了全世界媒体的目光。
不要说因为意识形态需要给彭丽媛好看,还是以为彭丽媛太过张扬的,或者认为家庭重于政治而支持和理解米歇尔缺席的,即便以各种目的反对和不认同米歇尔缺席的人们,也对米歇尔投以比以往更多和更深的关注。
一正一负之下,就抢走了对彭丽媛的关注度。这点在中国大陆十分明显。而米歇尔缺席习奥会,无需为彭丽媛进一步提供一个表演的舞台,一定程度上也限缩了彭丽媛的表演空间。世界第一的风头,因为没有同台交集而被冲淡或夺走,作为女人,这应该是最大的成功之一。
其三,此举米歇尔捍卫了美国妇女特立独行的个性和尊严。目前程度上不用虚以委蛇地去演戏,更能遮盖自己个性不圆融,家庭甚或有点小不快的尬尴。
作为女人,和一个相夫教子的家庭妇女,米歇尔并并没有吃亏,甚或抢到更多的媒体关注。但作为第一夫人,仍然有很多的遗憾。特别是习奥会如果谈得成果不理想,东方人的思考习惯会解读为:细节体现真诚,美国也许一开始就没有要谈出结果的准备和诚意。尽管这和国际政治无需太过拘泥小节相距甚远。但民间这种认识,却让米歇尔作为职业女人和第一夫人的光环大减。
设若可能,米歇尔还有机会可以做得更好:即便不按照导演的剧本出演,却可以按照自己的方式出场:不在习奥会的庄园会面可以去其他地方会面,不在此时会面可以在结束时会面,或者高调送一些礼物,表达遗憾,邀请彭丽媛个人去其他地方一起转转,像个闺蜜好友那样。尽管这样操作的可能不大,但的确是兼顾的最佳选择之一。米歇尔毕竟除了女人,还是美国的第一夫人。

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